Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Cabin Fever.

Normally I do pretty well in winter.
But right now, I am dying to get some sun!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I lived in Prescott some dear friends of mine from Oregon would fly down to Phoenix to escape the rain and stay at the Scottsdale resort. They would get a bigger room so I could have a bed and I would drive down and meet them. For two days I would get to lie in the sun by the pool in December, drinking strawberry smoothies, having lavish buffet breakfasts and eat salad on the patio....












My goodness what would I give to be swimming in a pool right now!!!
Sigh.
But Im thankful for BOGO culvers sundaes on really boring days. Where hubs and I get all bundled up for ice cream and a walk around the boardwalk.
Thankful for a home to call my own, and a job that will enable me to fund future vacations.
I am so ready for the summer, and will be ever more grateful for it this year after having survived another Minnesota winter!
I'm thinking a Mediterranean cruise sounds good for our two year anniversary and Noahs graduation...don't you?!?!

:)

Monday, February 20, 2012

notes on a midwife.

*Disclaimer* *I am rather passionate about this topic. Mostly because I am rather educated on this topic. As a result, I have an opinion about it. I realize opinion posts can come across as rather one-sided. For anyone interested in this topic I do have a side that I sit in, but I do try extremely hard to see both sides. As a result, if you choose to engage in a discussion about it I will not attempt to dissuade you, judge you, prove you wrong or tell you that you are wrong. I will simply tell you why I feel they way I do, based on the information I have. As with all opinions, we can gather new information and change our minds. However on this topic I doubt I will :) *

One of my patients the other day asked what the difference was between a nurse-midwife and a doula.
Inside I kind of laughed. And then I felt sad because I'm sure a lot of women don't know. I'm sure that's why they choose lay midwives who aren't trained in fetal resuscitation, obstructed birth, post-partum hemorrhage, shoulder dystocia and the myriad of other issues that brings home birth mothers into the hospital.
How can women give their baby the best chance at life if they don't even know the difference?
For your information...

A doula is somebody that may or may not have any formal training (and by training I mean a two week class). They are often women who have had children themselves, and take on a SUPPPORTIVE role in birth. They are not medical professionals, nor do they make or can contribute to making medical decisions. They are there to be an encouraging voice in natural labor, to hold hands, play music and massage feet.

And therin lies where the nurse-midwife comes in. A nurse-midwife is a health care professional who has first completed a bachelors of science in nursing degree. They then go on to obtain their Masters (and now Doctorate) in Advanced Nurse Practice in Nurse Midwifery. They take a national exam to be certified. They are overseen by a professional nursing board. They are autonomous practitioners with a minimum of 6 years education. They have performed observed births, taken pharmacology classes and understand how to manage complicated labors. They are the guardians of natural birth. They are legally allowed to deliver in hospitals, own their own clinic and see patients on their own. They can also prescribe.

Obstetricians are medical doctors. They have a four year undergraduate degree, a four year masters degree in medicine, and a four year residency in obstetrics and gynecology. They are primary care providers for women in both before, during and after pregnancy as well as surgeons. OBGYN's are famous for C-sections, but they also do a variety of other gynecological surgeries. These providers are guardians of complicated births. Midwives turn over their patients to doctors when they are older mothers, have co-morbidities like diabetes, hypertension, heart disorders and pregnancy complications like placenta previa and abruptio and fetal abnormalities. OB docs are highly trained and specialized. Many women are wary of them because they think they are out to pull you into a c-section. While some OB docs definitely do abuse c-sections as an easy way out, c-sections are necessary in about 8% of births (statistically speaking). 8 in every 1,000 women will have complications that will warrant surgical intervention.

Lay midwives (who rarely call themselves that) do not necessarily have any formal medical training, and tell women that they can deliver their babies. They have to do this at home or in personal birthing centers because they cannot legally do so in a hospital setting. It is my understanding that lay midwives are the most associated midwives with complications (maternal and fetal death). For the life of me I could never understand how somebody without adequate training (shadowing just isn't enough people) could put themselves in a place where they are setting themselves up to fail. I could never promise to do something that I was not 100% sure I could do as safely as possible. While I am a nurse, and have been trained how to do an emergency birth ('catch the baby') and have labor and delivery experience I would never go to another country or home town and say that I could deliver babies. Heck no! If something happened to a mother or baby because of me, I wouldn't be able to live with myself. I would have known that I did not have the adequate training.

I am pretty passionate about the role of nurse-midwives (CNM's). I think it is a more holisitc way of managing labor (for low-risk, young women). They have equal outcomes to OBGYN's. Hopefully in the future when I am in OB doc I can be a positive voice for this profession, committing to be a back-up doctor for CNM's to whom they can call for support and advice.

I will, however, remain strongly assertive against lay midwives. Obviously I believe in personal choice. When women make informed decisions to chose lay midwives, more power to them. I am not say all lay midwives are bad. They are just a few rotten ones out there. My issue is when women are placing the health and safety of themselves and their infants into the hands of someone who has not been upfront about their training and abilities.

Personally I would choose to place the life, health and safety of my baby as my top priority, not my birth experience. I believe having a positive birth experience is possible in the hospital, which is great because its also the safest place for your baby to be if something goes wrong. I know that deep down inside if I lost my baby because I gave birth to it in the way I wanted (i.e. at home, unassisted, in a rural area etc) and something happened to my baby, I would be so, so gutted at myself. But I realize some women want a birth experience that is different. That is fine. We all live with our choices in the end!

I love this topic and willing to discuss it with anyone!

Friday, February 17, 2012

Moral busybodies!!!

"Of all tyrannies a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victim may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron’s cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated, but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." -- C. S. Lewis.

Moral busybodies:
- people who vehemently believe in their own choices, and so take it upon themselves to tell you that you are wrong like

vaccines are bad
giving birth in a hospital is dangerous
feeding your child formula is evil
being a working mom means your children will end up in jail

While I plan on breastfeeding, co-sleeping and peaceful parenting I also plan on working, vaccinating my children and giving birth in a hospital. I come from a mix of two worlds. This is whats right for me. Why can't people just be ok with whats right for them???? why force everyone else to believe it too?!?!?!

I'm a lame blogger.

Ok so my blogging has been non-existant lately. Mostly because my whole entire life right now, outside of work, is study!!!!!!
So I'm going to be lame and do the month in review!


{Beautiful Pearl and Diamond earrings from Hubs}


{Valentines Day kisses!!}


{I'm now a platinum blonde!!!}


{Home-made pumpkin whoopie pies...so delish!!!}


Other Fun stuff not documented:
-- I am sick today and Noah came home with saltines, diet 7up and my favorite chick flicks. He is so good to me (he also held my hair while I was puking into the toilet, then rubbed my back for twenty minutes. I am so blessed.)

-- we have had a fun two weeks of dates as I have been studying at the University library while he studies. We have lunch together each time! so far we have had chipotle, chinese, greek and brueggers bagels. Love seeing this man every day!

-- For valentines day he took me out to my favorite organic restaraunt, where I had a delish breakfast, then we went to the movies to see the vow.... I had roses, caramels and beautiful pearl earrings awaiting me at home!!

Am I married to the most romantic guy or what?!?!